I recently watched a video with women singing, “You don’t own me!” Written on the screen between different women singing were statements about Roe vs. Wade, specifically that if Romney becomes President he will overturn that court case. The point of the video was to say that women have the right to do with their bodies what they will, and the implication is that if a woman wants to have an abortion it should be her choice (i.e., “Romney and the GOP, don’t tell us what to do with our bodies!”)
I get what the video is trying to say, but I think the issue about control is misplaced. Before I explain what I mean, I feel compelled to ask two questions:
(1) What is the different between a child crying minutes after being born vs. a fetus being aborted a week earlier?
(2) When does an embryo become a human worth protecting? At conception? Four weeks after conception? Eight weeks in utero?
Look at the following pictures, which I think help to answer these questions…
Baby at 8 weeks after conception:
Child at 12 weeks:
Child at 20 weeks:
Child at 36 weeks:
A baby just born between 38 – 42 weeks:
Is it logical to say this child is more human than at 8 weeks? Let’s go backwards from 8 weeks for a moment…
A developing child at 6 weeks:
A developing child at 4 weeks:
Before this, there was a choice related to self-control. After this, the sperm and egg turn into an embryo and a new human individual, with sex, and its own DNA and blood type is instantly formed (i.e., 23 chromosomes from the man are added to 23 chromosomes from the woman to develop 46 chromosomes plus the combination of the X and Y chromosomes, which determine the sex of the child,equalling 48 chromosomes — when all this happens a new human being is formed because the embryo has new DNA that is not strictly the mother’s DNA, and hence a new, distinct human individual now exists in the womb of its mother). At this point the embryo is not a part of the mother’s body, rather the womb becomes an environment in which to protect the new individual as it grows and develops as a human being. If nothing prevents the implantation of this embryo to the uterine wall, and if nothing removes this developing embryo, then this individual human being will go through the natural stages of human development.
The issue some women are trying to make is that men (like Romney and in the GOP) should not try to control women by overturning Roe vs. Wade; but the real control issue is a matter of self-control before sex and the issue of ownership of the embryo after sex.
To men – we need to control ourselves! Think about it, if a woman doesn’t want to have sex, it is possible she might still be forced upon by the man (please know I do not condone this). If a man doesn’t want to have sex, sex is not going to happen. Men, be men and control yourselves! Wait to have sex until you are ready to settle down with a woman, care for her and the children you produce. If you are not ready for this, you are not ready for sex. To have sex without being committed is inconsiderate and irresponsible.
To all – who owns who? No one owns anyone! We should not live in a society of ownership and slavery! At the same time, the question related to embryos is this – who has the right to say, “You don’t own me!” The mother to Romney and pro-lifers? Or the individual human embryo that is relying on its mother in the womb for protection?