For those who were not at our church service yesterday in place of a sermon we had a wedding ceremony of a couple that had previously been married, divorced, and yesterday were re-married after 5 years of being apart. It was better than a sermon! We were watching a sermon!
This is the GOSPEL lived out (i.e., reconciliation and redemption for following God’s principles).
After the service yesterday there were several questions about divorce and re-marriage. I would like to address those so that if there is anyone out there with the same questions we can cover those scenarios:
(1) First, if you have made a mistake in the following areas you need to know that it is not the end of the world. You do not lose your salvation or anything like that and at the same time you need to know that the Pastors and Elders are here to help you understand the Scriptures and navigate you through your circumstances with love, grace, and accountability (Gal. 6:1-2).
(2) Second, all the following is to be prayerfully considered, especially before getting married so that you don’t set yourself up for problems down the road.
(3) God’s best is divorce would not happen (Malachi 2:16 & Matthew 19:3-6), but GOD allows it in certain circumstances (Matthew 19:7-8 & 1 Cor. 7:15).
(4) Divorce is allowable by Jesus when one has committed adultery; at that time the one who has remained pure is released, but God’s best is they would work through things (Matthew 5:31-32 & 19:3-8).
(5) Divorce is allowable if an unbeliever is married to a believer and the unbeliever decides to leave, the believer is released (1 Cor. 7:10-16). But in this passage, especially if there are children, it is God’s best for the couple to remain married.
(6) If a couple divorces, they are to be reconciled or remain un-married unless adultery has happened in which case the one who has not committed adultery is released (Matthew 5:31-32 & 19:3-8).
(7) When divorce happens between Christians and no one commits adultery before divorce, the couple is still obliged to their vows and if, while divorced, one of the two has sex or gets married to someone else, then at that moment adultery has happened and the one who has remained pure is released (Matthew 5:31-32 & 19:3-8).
(8) If someone has divorced and then married someone else, remain faithful to the current marriage, don’t get re-divorced (Deuteronomy 24:1-4).
The couple had problems, there was no adultery, but they divorced, they remained unmarried and worked through their problems and were re-married following 1 Cor. 7:10-11. This is truly a praise. Please pray they remain married.